“Hypothetically, if I were to enter into a serious relationship with someone right now,” she said, “would I honestly say to them: ‘We’re going to spend two years in Philadelphia, and then with some kind of crazy luck I’m going to spend eight years somewhere else? And [who] knows what you would have been doing for the two years that we were still in Philadelphia — you either would have to up and leave with me, or we’d have to do a long-distance.’ That’s just too much to even ask anyone to commit to.”
This probably struck me a tad harder because I literally just picked up my whole life and moved across the country despite a few interests I may or may not have had in the last lovely place I lived. There were a few times I might have been able to talk them into coming, they may have been able to talk me into staying, or the two of us might have been able to talk eachother into trying long distance crap (bet you can't tell how I feel about that one) but I just couldn't do any of those because like the girl quoted above that is just way too much pressure. No one wants to be in a relationship that could end with one or both parties saying, "I gave up everything for you and then you were more interested in your career than you were in me." That ain't cool.
I think society is in a weird place right now. Like this article says the 20's are the time for building yourself: your career, your self respect, growing as a person. Ok so I think I fit very well into this category. I struggle getting too committed because I worry what I might miss out on in my own life if I get too tied down. (yes this is an excuse for my current relationship status when the truth is I have a complete lack of allure and the guys I like always end up going for the leggy blondes #samreeves) I'm enjoying my 20's as a strong independent female with the entire world as a possibility as my future. This isn't the most attractive quality for a guy ready to settle down. How does this play out? I think we're in a transitional period that could end with a lot of single folk. Some people like me are so gung-ho about our careers saying love and relationships will come later but what happens when we are all 35 single with no prospects? First of all, will that actually happen? And second of all if it does happen is that a bad thing?
Everyone wants to be loved. Everyone enjoys affection physical and otherwise. It's nice to be thought about and nice to have a partner in your life who wants to spend time with you. BUT is it really necessary? Not in the religious 'neither the man without the woman nor the woman without the man' way just in the could you have a happy life here on earth without matrimony?
I don't have the answer to this? Just putting it into the universe. For now I do feel lucky for having an awesome job, fantastic friends, and a family willing to skype with me every Sunday. My realy question is will it if that is all I have in 10 years will it still be enough?
