It's a fine line between cute and creepy

The post of the day comes from an inner turmoil of mine.  I recently have found myself admiring from afar.  It's gone from randomly showing up in his line of vision to Facebook stalking to try to seduce this person. For the purposes of this blog and the hope that said crush remains anonymous we'll just call him The-very-good-looking-hopefully-single-boy-who-I-someday-hope-to-talk-to or TVGLHSBWISHTTT for short.  Anyway - so as I was contemplating my next move (do I stalk him to his work or the grocery store for a happenstance meeting) the thought crossed my mind that perhaps I may come off a little creepy sometimes.  I mean in my mind I am like a secret CIA agent whose identity is a complete secret and to him I'm just the cute girl that he randomly runs into once in a while but he may see me as kinda crazy.  Think of all the things that girls/guys do to try to run into the opposite gender (or same, I don't judge) just to get their attention.  Now probably 51% of the time this comes off completely adorable and is someday put in a chick flick entitled "You've Got Mail" or "While You Were Sleeping" think how easily (49% of the time) these things could have turned out the other way.

Take "You've Got Mail" the perfectly adorable movie about two people who fall in love through e-mail.  Ah, it's impossible to hate this cute rom-com featuring the charming Tom Hanks and quirky Meg Ryan.  But wait.  Let's really analyze what would have happened if Kathleen Kelly hadn't taken so kindly to finding out Joe Fox was her romantic pen pal.

Joe rounds the corner of the park.  Kathleen sees him and realizes that he is the man who wrote her the adorable letters.
Joe: "Don't cry ShopGirl"
Kathleen: "Wait - so you have known that I have been ShopGirl for like a few months and you've not only continued writing me but also decided to trick me into dating the real you on the side?  Oh yea and you also put me out of business."
Joe: "Uh yea but remember how I'm sweet and I brought flowers to you when you were sick?"
Kathleen: "You mean when you 'heard' I was sick, found out where I lived and when I wouldn't let you in snuck up to my apartment and forced your way in.  Oh yea real sweet."
You see how that can be seen as just a little creepy?  It's not only in movies folks.  It's everywhere.  You never know if what you are going to do in the name of love is going to come off as completely romantic or like you're the vampire who watches them sleep (which for some reason is also romantic?  I'm lost).


Take writing a cute note for the boy slash girl you like and leaving it on their car.  Now this comes off as either, "I just decided to leave you a cute little note because I was thinking about you and thought it might make your day," or  "I know where you are right now, I know what kind of car you drive, and I will be following you for the rest of the day."  One instance results in a twinkle in the eye and flutter of the heart while the other results in a restraining order.  You just don't want to send the wrong message.



Another scenario:  Once in a while your phone freaks out and doesn't send a text.  When responding to that person who makes the world got round you don't receive a text back.  You think, either my phone freaked out and didn't send the message or they just don't want to text me back.  You obviously jump to the conclusion you can control which is it didn't send the text.  So you want to send another text approximately an hour later just checking to see if he/she got your text.  Now in your mind this is so cute and sweet and normal.  In their minds they most likely are thinking that you are desperate, needy, and yes just say it with me creepy.

There is always that line.  It's so small and easy to cross some don't even realize they've crossed it.  One minute you're writing a cute love story and the next your characters are in an abusive relationship of wanting to die so they don't have to be away from the other and watching them sleep constantly.  Occasionally their is a demon child eating away at the mother from the womb but hey now I'm just spit ballin.

I guess the only way to end cycle is find someone just as creepy as you.  They leave a note on your car, you text them three times in a row.  Both of you have an understanding.  You'll have to get used to someone always watching you but hey at least you'll stop picking your nose!